Soul Groups #67 ©
Understanding Soul Groups is much like accepting as true the idea of intuition, synchronicity, reincarnation or manifesting something as basic as a parking space during busy times. It begins with the Metaphysical/Spiritual concept of us all choosing our parents and family for the experiences which they will give us, related to the lessons we need to learn in this particular life. The size of your soul group varies from life to life depending on what you need, and they in return need from you. It is sort of like a giant jigsaw puzzle, where just when you seem to get the pieces to fit, it is time to start over. So your current family, relatives, friends and so called enemies probably have played the life game with you multiple times before, but usually in various positions, as we are here for the challenge. Portraying the more ugly parts may actually speak of how much they love you, as they contribute to the lessons that you need to experience. While conscious in this life, we rarely have glimpses of who or what, we were in Past lives together. While blips may come out in dreams, or hypnotic past-life regression, this knowledge may or may not be helpful to us in this life.
Currently, we may have healing contracts with certain members of our soul groups, sort of like Karma clearing. This may mean that prior to our birth, we agreed as part of our life journey to complete those contracts. If you’ve had a problem or separation from a parent or sibling, and that irritation keeps coming back up, you have not healed that karma as hoped. They may be expecting your help to heal, but you may no longer want to deal with them, as their energy is so awry to yours. You may hope, or even help them to find other teachers that have more patience for their healing. Yet your moving on may leave you feeling guilty, as you don’t really have an acceptable solution to your contract. Still, is it fair you are so uncomfortable dealing with them, because of being out of a vibration? Unfortunately, your strong emotional DNA ties to your soul group may tempt you to delay your own growth, because you feel their pain and fear.
Exercise: This is where you need to examine your natural tendency to help them, just because that is what you have always done. Perhaps this is the life where you are strong enough, or ready to say, “No, I’m not going to delay my growth and movement. I have helped you so often before, and enough is enough. I cannot complete the contract if you are not willing to cooperate.” If many others in the soul group have given them one more chances repeatedly, for them to ’see the light’ for the completion cycle of their healing, then it may be time to let go for this life time. If this is the story you believe, then the choice for you is obvious, to continue your move into your higher vibration, and experience your reality from this new level. We are all given the opportunity to complete our cycles, and move into higher levels of being, to accept new vibrations for ascending. But not everyone is ready, nor willing to do the work that is required for their completion. Who you are becoming is not who you’ve been, and no one has the right to hold you back from your Divine Destiny or happiness. Family may be blood, but not a life-saving match to you. It may be part of their game to see how long they can hold you at their level. As they say about rejection in your hometown, it would be more so in a family rejecting bold, brazen stars showing them all up.
If in this life time, this related person may not have had to be responsible or accountable for many of their actions, because of parents or spouses, or even children taking care of them. Then they often cannot face the painful choices we’ve all had to learn, to heal and grow without our hands being held or our feet guided. Your choice has to sometimes be self-preservation, and what is best for your own soul growth. We must then disconnect energetically from those others in our soul group to allow them to perhaps find their own power for their healing and ascension in their own way, perhaps in another time. We can only guide everyone to the light, even those of your soul group, but that final choice is theirs. So you can then gently disconnect from your contract and release yourselves from the commitment of their healing. Hopefully, as you complete your cycles, you are allowing them to develop their empowerment and divinity on their own, without sacrificing your own soul growth in the process. Remember it is a singular path. There are no lessons learned if you are carrying them and making the decisions.
When your mind has slipped outside of accepting unconditional love, which we all do from time to time, your immediate loneliness makes you feel its need to assert power and control over your situations. This is, of course, without acknowledging that on its own, this mind has created this reality. The ego, along with the insecurities of fear, quickly denies that its clever mind took part in any self-sabotage resulting in your suffering, injustices, or betrayals being experienced. In its avoidance, and fear of being judged harshly for its mistakes, your ego immediately projects those errors on others – usually in the soul group – rather than judging itself. This human mind has forgotten the attributes of the Divine mind, where knowing its loved unconditionally is basic. All kinds of emotional and psychological patterns emerge from simple procrastination – not making a decision of action, to passive-aggressive – where one moment blaming oneself to the next of blaming everyone else. Usually the target of such reproaches is someone within the soul group, as there is a safety of non-violence for the bad behavior, yet resentment, as these people know your deepest secrets more than anyone else.
Perhaps the most revealing story I could tell of my mother is the day following my father’s funeral, after the relatives living within the area had returned to their homes. My hapless sister and I had traveled together – at my father’s request to get us to reunite, which didn’t really work - so we were staying a few days. I went to the grocery store to get some basics and stuff for sandwiches for my mother and our road trip. My father loved the Deli section, and I picked up most of what I remembered that they liked, including a fresh loaf of Jewish Rye bread. Money had not been a problem, though they had both been living off retirement for many years. I came in with all of the fixing, and proudly announced them to my mother, as I entered the kitchen. Trying to please my mother was a long time thing, which I truly thought I had passed, especially by moving far away, and having her out of my daily life. Sitting at the table, she looked up at me and said, “You know I never really liked rye bread, I just ate it because your father loved it so much.” I plopped down in a chair and just stared at her, as they had been married over fifty years, and she had not hesitated to chastise him or speak her mind. Also, I distinctly remembered us four kids, having several different kinds of bread in the house all the time. Choices and availability of food had never been a problem.
My mother’s favorite game was stoicism, and often moved up a notch to rescuer or even martyrdom – “Look what I’ve done for you; I was only doing what was best for you;” or her favorite, “How could you do such a thing to embarrass me so, what will the neighbors think?” When I finally questioned her as to why she would eat bread that she didn’t like all those years, she again simply said how much my father liked it, as if her eating it made him happy. I then commented, that I doubted that he could have cared less whether or not she ate what he ate, as their taste with many foods varied. I think my final comment, as I should have remembered there was really no use in arguing with her, was something like she just enjoyed punishing herself and blaming others for it. She started to cry, asking why I was still so mean to her. Which meant, of course, as an adult I had accused her of her game-playing, stoicism, etc. about ten years prior and she literally had a stroke. Not my finest hour, but then I had put up with it all for about thirty years – including almost killing myself. I left about six months later to freedom, and a new life alone far, far away from her. Having it all then come sweeping back to my memory was my fault for being pulled into her game. I was still being controlled by that child inside wanting to be accepted by her.
I share all this with the reality of the reoccurrence of understanding Soul Groups. This telling acknowledgment and eventual acceptance of it was more difficult with the premise that we choose our parents, siblings, etc., as well as our birth order. Had my older sister and the younger of my older brothers really been playing a designated role of hapless twits in this life for me, my lessons? Sadly, yes. When younger, I could only relate more to my oldest brother, but then even that faded over time. I kid you not, I had often been asked if I wasn’t secretly adopted. If it had not been for my closeness to my father – physically and emotionally – I would have considered it. Though I admit my position of unexpected late last child, played a major role in my non-acceptance and treatment in the family, especially by my mother and sister. Now, I’ve often wondered how many lifetimes we all had been together, and what positions we played out for one another to have the lessons/experiences to be learned in those lives. I eventually believed that I had created some whopper of Karma in those Past lives that totally got dished back to me in this one. These are the major forgiveness patterns that we all need to recognize and process. This life is a game, it has been hundreds of times over for many of us, and think of the people you choose to play with you – those you love.
On the other hand, consider those distant relatives or cousins that many ethnic groups, races, etc. that have been fighting each other for eons. You shake those family trees and we know they are related. They have chosen to keep hatred for who even knows what any more – politics, religions, cultural traditions? It may have started with jealousy, resentment, or simply fear of one having more power or being more successful than other. If asked, most would not even know why they war and kill each other, as it is an old belief system from their Past that has told to them to believe and follow. So we might say, that some Souls as they are returning, rather than grow by choosing new families, want to return to what they know best. Sad, very sad indeed, and also makes my family not so difficult anymore to accept as my choice from my Soul Group.
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