Situational Awareness #31 ©
I feel like I’m channeling a weird combination of Don Quixote and Joan of Arc. The Don Quixote is fighting for principles – people being taken advantage of – not going to go into big oil here – but basic everyday, or things we need to do for our well being. The Joan of Arc is, I hope not rescuing people, because that voids their power of choice, but bringing them awareness for what they may choose for themselves. While working at listening to my own Divine guidance, on the one hand, I’m standing my ground on the other. The magic of awareness here, is to know how long to continue the efforts if no actual response or results is revealed. You can’t make someone love themselves, or convince someone who is so delusional with ego to let go of their old Belief Systems. In other words, there are some cases that cannot be won, reasoned with, or worth the extensive energy. Perhaps Karma will bring them to their knees, as some people simply need more “effective” painful lessons than others.
I can stop beating my head and move on to others who actually want to know how to change their lives in a more healing way. As I have said before, staying true to yourself as you walk the path is no Sunday walk in the Park. While not constantly being pelted by trials, errors, conflict opportunities for experiences, those lessons will be there to trip you up as you grow to experience so much more. When difficult or conflicting moments happen, and they will as we still have lessons to learn, you don’t need to let them get to you. You don’t need to replay them as if on a recorded loop to relive it, exam it, edit it – Stop! Let it go. Take the lesson from it so you don’t put yourself, or allow yourself in that position again. Discard it, do not hold on to it as it is a moment, even an elongated moment, from the Past. We have no time machine here except our own memory of the Past. You can not change it, you can only learn from it, then let it go. A lot of deep breathing here! My new mantra is “Look for the positive and you’ll find; as well the negative.” I just don’t get it when some people insist on looking for the negative in everything, and then belabor it all in detail once they’ve found it! Do they just not want any joy in their lives? I know life is not perfect, that doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy it as it is.
Eventually you will learn to remove yourself from these situations as your awareness kicks in that this is not a good place for me to be, or these are not the best people for me to be around. Awareness, like listening, is a skill that can be learned, honed and finely tuned to keep us from repeating those moments, or situations that we no longer want to or need to put ourselves through. The negative will continue to come into your life, none of us lives in a bubble, or alone on top of a mountain. What an awareness allows is for you to keep the positive energy flowing through your life so none of the negative can stick to, or affect you. Don’t even give negativity a thought from your mind – if you notice it, let it flow on – no attachment. You don’t need the trauma or the drama. Stay in the positive flow. Remember when the lessons stop, the game is over as you’ve learned everything in this life and can move to the next. Trust your intuition always, as you take risks and chances to fulfill your purpose, not dampened by others and their negativity. Yes, we can make a difference, but pounding the old square peg in a round hole, just doesn’t work sometimes. People do change and grow, so you can always come back and work with them in the future.
You never know what you can do until you try and even if you fail badly, it is a dream you no longer have to say, “If only I could . . . “ Cross that one off the list. A friend broke his back skydiving at fifty. Luckily he returned to his healthy self, and he still says it was one of the most fun, exciting days of his life, and he was no wallflower. Every day is a new experience and sometimes what you couldn’t accomplish before, you may have learned the skills to complete it now. You are not a quitter when you have simply felt that the goal is no longer giving you the satisfaction you desired. While talking about it may be one step, and doing another, being it or totally feeling yourself involved is what is key. You may have been fulfilling a parent’s vicarious satisfaction, not your own. Many people who have musical or other talent learn that it is not great enough for them to sustain that dreamed of career. Yet, that does not mean that they have to throw away that instrument or dancing shoes or paint brushes. Their personal satisfaction in their talent should be enough for their own enjoyment. Joy has nothing to do with perfection.
Jealousy is another thing driven by fear and the ego saying, “Why wasn’t that me?” or “I could do that if I tried!” The ego usually jumps in and says that, but you didn’t do that thing or you probably didn’t try to accomplish it. Variety is not only said to be the spice of life, but a statement that none of us are great at everything. Choose what really makes your heart sing, and learn to do that thing very well – not necessarily perfect, but enough for a sense of accomplishment. Think of this frustrating kind of fear like having your whole body Botoxed, and you can’t move a muscle for months! Of course, then you have the perfect rationalization for Not doing something, thus Not failing. It’s easy to give up being the Winner when you break your leg as the competition begins – there is always next time. Rarely is something once in a life time, unless we choose it to be so. There are always options and opportunities if we are open to them, and fully risk participating – which means not sabotaging your success! How many people practice to exhaustion, and then oversleep for the competition – figuratively or in actuality? How many times I’ve seen participants in my workshops go the distance only to have some minor thing throw them off at the end. This is pure sabotage that they truly need to get some awareness about in their lives. You truly can be your own worst enemy.
Exercise: As with all areas of fear they stem from our Past, especially the childhood part. Explore your different fears of success, jealousy, risk, perfectionism, etc. and see what may get an emotional reaction. What things have you desired or invested time and energy in, only to have dropped out or found some realization to not continue? Make a list of them and the reasons or excuses for your non-success. This is not about Not getting into Julliard, this is about quitting long before because you didn’t believe you would even have an opportunity to apply. Delve into it with your deep breathing and writing to forgive and let go. Also, make a list of those people who told you not to bother with trying. How much of it was you and how much the negative influence of others? Are any of those people still in your life? Why? Even if they are related to you, you don’t have to allow them to influence your life. You will be surprised what you have opened up – an unlimited vision of what you can do, even if you aren’t perfect or the best there is. It is never too late to dream or to fulfill those dream(s). Strength is nothing more than knowingness and understanding who you can be. That knowledge, and acceptance of it, of yourself, no being can ever take that away from you – ever, anywhere.
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