Move Past Your Past – A process for freeing your life
Prologue – Changing Yourself #1 ©
I am not a psychologist, though psychology is one of my degrees, nor am I a counselor, yet friends and others regularly come to me with their questions. But I do have more than twenty years dealing with people as a professional trainer, with Human Resources experience in Employee Relations, as well as my own quest since the 1980s of understanding myself and others. I have read many self-help, New Age, Spiritual books, and taken numerous workshops, classes, and meditation work with various diverse guides.
I have learned a few things and changed my beliefs a lot over the years. I have been compelled from within to share these things, gleaned and experienced, regarding the process of moving forward to be free from my Past. You may have read some of these ideas before, but gathering the processes all together, I had never found. So, I’ve tried to use the most basic, but straightforward steps that worked for me. Also included are quotes, affirmations and other supportive suggestions to inspire or cushion the difficulties of change – letting go of one’s Past.
I have been told from my Akashic Records reader, that almost all of my numerous Past lives I have been a teacher/trainer. Beside what parts of this information have been given to me by my Angel Guides, the rest has come from those Past life experiences and this one as a teacher/trainer. Much of the information will be repeated from different perspectives or ways, since we sometimes need to have things repeated to have them sink into our brains.
The whole letting go – Moving Past Your Past – is a step process, but one that is more linear than bottom to top. In other words, it is as if we progress in a continuum, adding and deleting as we learn what works or doesn’t, as time goes by. As the first major step – dissolving or replacing of an old belief systems or negative conditioned-responses, usually takes either a trauma to bring it to the forefront of the brain, or simply getting tired of repeated negative results. Emotionally, you can usually only work on one at a time, but sometimes one is directly connected another. Once this happens, your awareness and acknowledgment needs to examine the old belief/conditioned-response – where did it come from? why it doesn’t work anymore? etc. Then a decision has to be made as to how to replace it, and with what. Sometimes simply going for the opposite response works, at least for a while. Like most things subconscious, or in the brain, it abhors a vacuum and you don’t want another negative thought put in there, so it may be time for something positive.
Example 1: Someone accidentally steps on your foot, you: a) say “ouch”; b) punch the person; c) apologize – if you were raised amuck stoicism and constantly apologizing for occupying space or taking oxygen from a more worthy person.
Example 2: A close friend/relative of the family dies in a plane crash when you are a child; you overhear that planes are dangerous and to never fly in them or you will die. You: a) never fly in a plane; b) restrict your life to what you can get to by car, train, bus; c) look at the statistics and choose a safe carrier. Simplified yes, but typical also.
Since some of your negative beliefs may have been with you for longer than you can remember, they are usually reviewed gingerly or one at a time, as the revelations they bring up can be painful, embarrassing, or simply scary that you still follow them. As you let go of one, there will also be some opening up of other areas of yourself and you begin to feel pretty good and maybe even confident to look at more misconceptions. There will be those that as we examine them we see the hurt that created them, or the hurt we have brought on others by perpetuating them on those around us. This may slow the release process down, or even stop if for a while as pain is no fun. Many people – especially those with the same beliefs – will tell you that leaving old sores in the Past is best, and not to open Pandora’s Box. But there was something freeing and positive once you got over the last few revelations, and eventually you may be ready to continue the process. For some it may take years and others will never be able to let go of all of their Past, maybe just leave it for another lifetime. They may rationalize or justify as they have learned and grown enough for this one. Others can’t wait to have more positive love and freedom come into their lives, to start living a full and joyous life. It is all a choice and part of your fulfillment of Freewill, which God/Source and the Universe has been giving to us, along with the Pursuit of Happiness, which we are taught is also ours.
There are major steps which have to be done for any kind of realization of success; key are: Awareness, Acknowledgment, Honesty, and True Desire to have Change as part of your life. There is no timeframe for the process, as everyone’s path is different. For myself, I got lost several times, took detours, back peddled and even just gave up, because I did not have the time or energy to put into it what was needed. Sometimes resuming I could continue on, sometimes I had to go back several steps to get my momentum back. Often it was the times between jobs that I could concentrate on me, since I was a workaholic, usually too stressed out on the job.
Generally speaking, most people will only consider real life changes when they have been put through some trauma – life/death, divorce, bankruptcy, addiction wipeout, etc. It usually takes more than just an “Aha” moment, it is more like walking backwards over hot coals. Though the rewards vary from person to person, most will say as I do: I am a new person everyday – free and clear of yesterday – if I choose to let it all go. Whoever I thought I was yesterday, I do not have to be that person today. The Past is only a blip – take from it what you need to learn or want to remember, and let the rest of it go. Its weight increases everyday that you hold onto the negative baggage, or any mistakes that you think you may have done. It is not a mistake if you have learned something positive from it, expect to not repeat it, then let it all go. Have no regrets, that’s what forgiveness of self is. You don’t need that weight pulling you down. Letting go of the Past is a powerful act. Purging, releasing and alignment can cause stress, but at least there is something accomplished when its done.
Note: Pride is a good positive thing, ego is a negative controlling thing.
Exercise: Frequently, an exercise of Deep Breathing will be included, so it is important to understand how to properly do the process. Practice by standing up or lying down, so you know that you are getting the full results. You can later do it sitting, when you know you are doing it correctly. Place either hand with your palm over your bellybutton, and spread your fingers wide open, so your thumb is almost vertical to your little finger and perpendicular to your middle finger. Your Solar Plexus and diaphragm are just above your thumb, and what you are looking to feel the movement of your breath. Start with taking an In Breath as to a slow count of five, slight hold and an out count of five also. If you did not feel your thumb move, continue to practice increasing the number count until you do feel movement. Like any practiced exercise, you should with time be able to reach a count of ten going in and ten coming out. This is one of the healthiest things that you can do for your body!
Now, to get the full experience of the Deep Breathing, you add your Key Words – what you want to go into your body – the positive, and what you want to come out of it – the negative. So, you might start with – Positive in – Negative out; move on to Love in – Fear/Anger/Ego out; Healing in – Pain/Disease out; Abundance in – Lack out, etc. Eventually, you will learn to direct the Breath to different parts of your body to release and let go of pain, or send Golden Light/Love to your heart. The Breath is your personal power energy source, and one of the physical things that connects you to God/Source. It is also your personal unconditional love of yourself, because no one can do for you.
Note: If you smoke, you will not be able to receive the full power of your breath, so you might want to make a decision to quite smoking.
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