Move Past Your Past – Epilogue©

Epilogue – What I’ve Learned So Far ©

Before journeying on the path, many of us may have been afraid to ask the question, “What is Happiness?” Or more succinctly, “Am I happy?” But now, I hope, and at least for myself, I know happiness is all about love – as everything else falls into place after that. And, “Yes, I am happy. “ I do affirm my happiness everyday along with my good health. Though admitting that I felt inadequate prior from my Past, as most of us have those residues from parental controls or personal traumas. It is amazing what negative beliefs of others and ourselves we can overcome with age and perseverance. Middle age can prove success over the fears of failure that we had during our 25 – 35 age group. So many of us in that period were trudging on so, as to not face up to the nagging fears in the pit of our stomach.

Some of the best known successes came under the duress of tragedy, or hardship of just staying afloat emotionally. Though each individual’s travails differ in context and content, it is always truly how they were handled that marks the results. One, with what could be called the easier problems, may have failed by not having sufficient experience, or from being over protected so not knowing how to deal with them. Another succeeds under the most horrendous of situations, only because s/he sees no other alternative. I always considered myself an adaptive child as I generally knew that I had to please my mother for peace, and do things for myself as I rarely had any supporters from within my family. In addition, I lacked confiding my needs and desires to others, as believing my aspiring dreams would look foolish to them.

While true depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, many psychologists consider general depression to be a defense mechanism. It is deployed by simply not dealing with what is bothering you, and usually from the Past. How many millions choose drugs over processing? In the 1970s, it was Valium that was the trendy pill to pop whenever you had any stress, or even just expected to have any. Maybe that is when we became so accustomed to taking a pill to make us happy. With that, we see the under 30 group in a combination of lossness, and over reaction to their current life from their prior family dynamics. It is difficult for this group to grasp maturity, much less the decisions to succeed or face reality. The wounds of anyone’s younger years can be healed and released. We all sometimes need to learn the self-preservation trick of tying a knot at the end of our rope – so we don’t give up entirely. It is most amazing how some depressed wall flowers, and others bloom in their later middle age, I being one. If only more humans could produce pearls out of irritating situations, the way that oysters do. While wisdom is not guaranteed with age, it is often developed after surviving some major life challenging bouts. Obviously, the earlier one can release one’s Past demons, the more happy a future time one has to live and be loved.

There actually have been a number of studies that have proved that a positive/optimistic attitude, and general point of view is healthier both physically and mentally than a negative/pessimistic depressive one. This is like saying that someone drinks because of they’ve had a difficult life. No, once again research shows that any addiction comes from some sort of repressed feelings. Get that out and released, and amazingly the addiction is usually gone. The good and bad of all of our relationships, whether of those related to us or not, will define how happy and gracefully we age. The bottom-line is and always will be the various kinds of love we have felt, again especially for ourselves. While reality may be defined quite differently by most of us, love in its myriad of flavors has a solid base of happy, and feelings of worth. If it is needy and dependent, and you respond by rescuing, you are giving your power away, or even worse, it is being sucked from you. Competitive jealousy also sucks your power. There is a male consciousness of being told they are superior, when they are not. Most importantly, true love has never had the requirement of money, education or social standing. Also crucial, is to gratefully come to a point in your life where you do Not respond to someone’s expectation of you. It is simply being loved for who we are – the ‘warts and all,’ again.

While it is true that the positiveness of Pollyanna puts me out on a limb for disappointment or rejection, I remind myself and accept, that happiness like everything else is a choice – and winners risk it all sometimes. For others who fear being hurt, they may die never being able to accept love, or other acknowledgment of a happy life lived. It may be said that while passion may drive the young, it is compassion that comforts us when older. I guess there is an adjustment to one’s life, and then there is happy. I want to go out of this life having sung, danced and played every last note of my music – no unfinished symphony for me. They don’t have to all be great, and never expected to be perfect, but the lines on my face will be from laughing and smiling, not sadness or worry. Unfortunately, most of the men I loved, and who loved me, we’re never able to truly express or show that love to me. I do not Now look back on any of my relationships with any bitterness. As I totally accept that as with any other friendships, they come and go into our lives, as they’re meant to be at that time in my life for my best and highest good.

What I needed, and have learned, was when it was best for me to move on, especially regarding my marriages, my parents and relatives. I had put on facades for all of them for so long, they really had no clue and were rather shocked when I left. They didn’t understand what freedom I was talking about, and how it affected my happiness. Taking leave of a lover or others, is not something that we’re taught how to do, especially when it sounds selfish, in that it is for happiness sake only. The idea of not being responsible for another’s happiness, nor them for ours would sound foreign, if not downright bizarre to many. When the concept of trying to please, or make your parent or partner happy has been your way of life, the idea that “you cannot make another person happy, it comes from inside them,” sounds like an amazing revolution. We all do change, but for most of us just not at the same time or rate as others. I have finally learned that it is not something I need to apologize for, or even try to make amends to anyone. I’ve given up my adapting a thousand different ways, and still usually not succeeding. I’ve tried to let go or leave while I could still look back on some positive experiences together, and maybe be somewhat of friends. To be happy is to be healthy, and it all comes from being loved, of course, by yourself.

Love and Peace,
Alice Parker – apinsf@hotmail.com

Because of many people responding, I was encouraged to turn this blog into a book to share with more people, which is now complete. If you think you might be interested in reading it, please go to http://www.lulu.com/ – click the tab for “Buy” and choose “Books” from the Search, and then put in the title – Move Past Your Past or even my name – Alice Parker. It is a POD – Print on Demand and they ship around the world.

Also, if I may ask, if you think you might have some friends that might be interested in the book, please do sent them the information and attachments. I am more than happy to speak at any group, or if you know of any radio talk shows, etc. I will be happy to share what I have learned. It has been quite a journey for me, and one that I know will continue.

Thank you so much, and I do look forward to hearing from you.

Love & Peace,
Alice Parker

Move Past Your Past – Part #70©

Simple Truths #70 ©

The only thing for certain is that things will change, how we handle that change is as always our choice. Obviously, by now one would hope that you have learned to go with the natural flow of positive energy. If you always look for the Positive in all things and all people you will find it, and it will make your life and others more positive – even joyful. Of course, if you look for the Negative, you will find that also. Is that what you want to choose – to have negativity in your life for depression and sadness? Do you have a need to be dissatisfied with something, so you suffer? Do you need to take on the affects of things that are non-consequential to your life, just because they have negative energy? I am not saying that one should not be empathic to the problems of others, but taking on those problems as your own is neither healthy for you or helpful to those others. Think about it – being Positive is a choice, granted one you may need to practice, or even “fake it, till you make it,” but still a personal choice. You can learn to cultivate joy in the midst of challenges. Simple joy can fill your heart, your entire being, as in Joy there is Grace. And, through Grace there is the realization of Oneness, of wanting to help another because you can – yet remember to do so without attachment to them or their situations. We are All One, as we All come from the same Source.

Return to basics! You can take loving care of yourself by staying calm and not allowing anxiety into your life. Know that you are never alone, and nothing is ever as bad as fearful thinking makes it seem. Remember to ask for help from your Higher Self or Source, that is there for you always. By thinking loving, positive thoughts and feeding your body loving nourishment, you become positive energy. You, and only you, choose what you allow to influence you from any of your senses. If it is disharmonious, stop and immediately do your deep breathing with your positive key words in and releasing words out. Walk to keep your physical body moving, so that your energy stays positive as your awareness of nature surrounds you with feelings that all things are effortless and easy. Call on the Golden Light to encircle you, as you allow it to flow naturally through you – as you receive its protection, giving and sharing with others. You can trust that all is well, as all is always well, as you are blessed and full of Grace. This positiveness is more than magic, it is knowing that it simply is your birthright as a child of Source.

This return to basics is important to your commitment and focus of your journey on the path. There is no time now for getting far off track, as you will be called upon to assist novices in how they need to stay positive in the coming times. To be a good leader, you must have achieved the basics with a confidence that is without question.  Your own missteps are accomplishments in that you mastered them, no matter how long it took, or how many detours were involved. This is not a fastest time marathon, this is your life. However long it takes to learn what works and what doesn’t, is what’s most important. If your experiences of growth were half-assed or half-baked or even faked, what kind of a leader would you be for those novices? No, this is not about perfection, it is about knowing at your core, what flows well and is harmonious to your being, and what does not. This is not glitz, glamor or success acknowledged from those outside of you, it comes from within you first. So, if there is still any disharmony coming from any residue or sludge from entrenched old beliefs fueled by fear, they obviously need to go.

Objectively you need to regularly observe-visualize inside your heart/soul to see if there is anything at all that is not working, or causing any unrest. You know from your positive vibrational energy if there is peace within. Set your intention to become more truthful about topics you thought you had mastered. The ego can play tricks on you at any stage of awakening, putting you into illusion. Be willing to cover what seems like “old ground,” learning on a deeper level than before. There is no sense letting even the smallest tangles from any of the old ways that no longer serve you back into your realm. The secret here is that only you can change you, so focus on yourself. Once you have your own self back in order, then you can be that leader/guide to others, with love and care through true authenticity from knowing yourself so well. It all starts by your Being your own Truth, and then radiates out from there to whomever is ready to listen, accept and grow. Then they will know that their journey will be as long as it has to be, from their choices for the lessons to be learned – painful or arduous or whatever. The greatest lesson you may tell them about, is what is meant by listening to the still, small voice within. How much they choose to believe you will be part of their path. It usually does take time to learn to focus on the truth that is found in one’s own heart. You are your own torch-bearer, holding the light to discover your own truth.

It is understood in the depths of your heart that the truth of your journey is the very simple knowing that you have achieved enough compassion to allow another to just BE Who They Are! A compassionate heart allows the complete understanding in the truth of there never being a judgment of ourselves either. When you flow effortlessly from one right action to the next, you are establishing a new level of Spiritual morality, a code of ethics for all of humanity to live by. There is something about you finding your own truth, that puts you in deep communion with yourself. These realizations help you to release the Past and to experience love in its truth, because love is full of truth. In that way you know that anyone who places a condition on love is not expressing true love. Anybody who judges or criticizes anyone – including themselves – is not expressing true love. No one needs to be this kind of a victim, as it usually comes from the fears of others in an ignorant state of consciousness. You have the power to eliminate the fear permanently, and set in place the foundation for truth and love to exist. The more empowered and self-aware you are, the less you have to fear. A basic truth is that Fear is the number one paralyzing and self-sabotaging force. It causes you to feel negative, burdened, inadequate, useless, and worthless. Unlike natural fear in the form of survival or being alert to something dangerous, this fear is usually created by the ignorance and greed of humanity – one person trying to control another by putting them down.

Exercise: To determine for yourself what true love means to you, write down all of your belief systems regarding love. How have they changed since your journey began? Are there any of them that still comes from Past programming of your parents, friends, teachers, society in general? Study each one in detail, and delete any that truthfully no longer comes from the very core of your being. This can be a very powerful releasing, as what is left is therefore your truth about love. It can never be explained simply or even permanently – it is too vast and too intertwined with most everything in your life. Revisit the topic on a regular basis, especially after you have had some sort of related experience where you may question the presence, or truth of love.

Move Past Your Past – Part #69©

Chaos Theory #69 ©

Chaos Theory – a briefly simplified, wide interpretation: The name signifies that a described theory may be apparently disordered, but that with investigation, findings will show that there is underlying order in apparently random data, or related contributing parts. Or, when things seem in absolute chaos, there is really an orderly foundation. Most importantly regarding your transition, is that you find in the chaos and maintain certain tendrils, or connections that keep you going in the positive direction. Key to this would be your anchor to God/Source, and the unconditional love that abounds you.

As much as most of us on our journeys are letting go of our Past, still there is the recognition that we are a true accumulation of our Past. Meaning, much that has made us who we are, is exactly what we are trying to shed. Do you see the dichotomy here? While discipline or punishment may have made you strong, or have fortitude against difficulties, the pain needs to be let go of in order to put positive focus on future choices of a better, happier life. The continuous confusion may come from holding on to all those positive things that we have turned around from our Past, while releasing their negative roots. The blaming has been replaced by forgiveness, and responsibility to move on to live in the Now, free from any chains – visible or invisible – that bound you.

The vast majority of humanity still allows others – personally or through the media – to define their life for them. Various organizations profit from this relationship and use fear to promote their agenda – they manipulatively preach doom and gloom if You don’t do or believe as you are told. It is much like the pharmaceutical companies creating new faux diseases to get you to buy more drugs. This plays on our embedded belief that our life can be better protected with a pill, rather than having a healthy lifestyle, as that may be too much work. It will take a lot of patience to allow your human brothers and sisters to wake up from accepting this long time scenario.

Subliminal suggestion plays directly to one’s Past beliefs/prejudices, suggesting they don’t need to take responsibility, or share the wealth, or be accepting of those who are different than them. We are ALL One – Equal – as we ALL come from the same God/Source. Those easily sucked into these various propaganda need to discover a type of self-love that has been missing from their world. Many from the generations that spoke out for Peace/Freedom in the 1960s and ‘70s have continued to contribute to the shift in humanities’ consciousness. For many it was part of their service contract to fulfill, of their acceptance prior to coming on Earth. Many have now realized that they truly are Angelic Beings having a Human Being experience, and allow joy to guide their choices.

We all know that many people are just now waking up and having much more interest in things like New Energy, Spirituality or metaphysical groups. Some don’t have all the heavy overlays from years of mandated religious beliefs, or maybe many years of political turmoil. So they’re very, very open to any freedom and coming forth, interested in the idea of personal choice. The release of structure, to break free and have that liberation, at times was/is chaos. What you have learned so far on your path is similar in that it is a blessing, And curse at the same time. But this chaos has caused you to look at it from more than an organized, linear perspective. Once you have seen the forest for the trees, or the other side of the coin, you learn that it is not chaos, but freedom with a myriad of potentials to choose. This New Earth Energy – Spirituality is eclectic, it doesn’t require Group structure. You can personalize it to your preferences/needs. Your belief systems based on who you are now and in your choice future, not someone else’s dictates of how you must live your life. The more you learn from your positive actions, the more It is always giving back to you, as God/Source is limitless in its abundance. With full acceptance of this gift, you are rewarded with what you need showing up through things or people to guide, direct or give you what you ultimately need or desire.

So as you’re discovering that your New Energy can have chaos associated to it, there is always a giving nature that defies structure or logic, unless you make that as part of your ownership on it. You are progressing, albeit sometimes the hard way, but as usual those times have catapulted you into looking at things in a whole new way. You no longer let anything and anyone define things for you to do, or be who you truly want to be. Spirituality is definitely more than a religion, even one that you may say has been personalized just for you. Spirituality is your direct connection to your Divinity and allowing that Energy to flow through you as often as you choose. For some it’s on a daily basis, some it’s hourly, or others it’s on a minute-by-minute basis. Once you’ve gotten comfortable and accepting of your Divine Energy flow, you don’t even have to  think about. Within your heart and consciousness, it is simply always there.

When you have this surety of who You are and how strongly you are connected, you don’t have to convince anybody about anything. “I am who and what I am.” This brings harmony and balance to your space, as this truth controls any chaos you might feel. There is a strength that needs no defending, as well as an acceptance that everyone has a choice in their beliefs, and that in no way changes or discounts your beliefs. Granted, if someone is irritating in their need to have you convince them regarding your beliefs, then step away, or do whatever you need to disconnect from them. You may want to work within yourself as to why you would allow another’s opinion to influence, or question you to prove yourself or your beliefs. When you know what is in your heart and mind is true, and you love yourself as you are, then it is merely accepting that as your reality. Yes, it is a process of Becoming who you truly are, and that is part of the confusion, the chaos which includes questioning. Prior, you may not have been capable of making many of your own decisions. Accept that you are no longer engaged in this duality with other people pushing and pulling you. Know that you have moved away from that. You are no longer caught up in the right and wrong or whatever, you’ve let go. You are now true to yourself, and who you know you are to be.

Exercise: Do your deep breathing – 3 – 5 deep breaths – as often as needed with Harmony-Balance in-breath – Chaos-Confusion out-breath. Do it until you feel lighter and your Energy is grounded. Also, remember that whenever a person pushes those sacred cow buttons in our lives, bless them as you let them go. That is their role at that time in our life until we learn the lesson they are helping us to overcome. Through our awareness – questioning ourselves – we can learn how to respond differently. Never question that you are loved, especially by yourself – Know that you are.

Move Past Your Past – Part #68©

Past Lives #68 ©

As previously said, along the path of our journey, blips and flashes of Past scenarios run across our minds like an old film, or they may come up in very vivid dreams. If you have not yet, perhaps you are ready to more thoroughly exam some of your Past lives, especially those that have left you Karma burdened. We’ve talked about Past Pain and some Karma, but it may be time to totally release yourself from any negative that you’ve been carrying again in this life. You may find yourself tapping into what you would consider Past life experiences, as you question why you did or said something that the New You would not have done. You don’t really need to ask where did that come from, as you know – a Past Life snuck in to throw you off course. Kind of like your lips were moving, but what you said didn’t come from your current mind.

Exercise: In reality, as you allow your consciousness to move through your I Am Presence, you are able to draw from the multitude of previous experiences that you may have had. How much you need to know about that particular Past Life is up to you. Usually, unless it is a rather fascinating story, I only want to know enough to find out what “thing” or Belief System, is tripping me up in this life. So, your key – any time you find yourself in confusion, or out of Your heart energy – take that deep breathe, focus it on your heart/soul and know that you are protected and connected to Source. See your Heart Chakra whirling, activated in bright Green light and feeling total protection. That will be your key, the deep breath and feeling protected and connected to Source. After several deep breaths, ask your Higher Self to release you from Any and All negative energy from Any and All Past Lives with Karma. You forgive it, love it and thank it for whatever lessons it gave you, as you are ready to move on. Ask your Higher Self to replace the negative energy with Golden Light-positive energy, as that is what you want in your life now and forever. Keep breathing deeply, and be sure that you visualize the negative Karma energy going out and the Golden Light positive energy coming in. You may need to repeat, or continue the process until you do feel a lightness, and can visualize your Heart Chakra filled with both its own Green light and the Golden Light.

It doesn’t matter what happened in the Past, you have no need to totally relive the trauma either done to you, or by you. You’re already Here – repeat frequently that you are protected and connected directly to God/Source. This is liberation of your Soul, you do NOT need to suffer any Karma from ANY Past Life! Always invoke the power of Grace and Harmony, visualizing your connection to Source with Positive energy surrounding you, above, below and within you down to cellular level. Because we are all out there in the public, we pick up negative energy from mass consciousness just by our interactions or osmosis. I do a clearing regularly of any negative energy in my emotional, conscious, subconscious and unconscious energy, replacing it with Golden Light Positive Energy, as stated prior. I also do a balancing of my male energy, and a balancing of my Vibrational Frequencies for good health and happiness.

It is just that simple:  Remember, take a deep breath, truly know that you are protected and connected to Source. Liberate yourself – Free yourself – Choose for yourself – No more suffering. You – YOU – have to make a choice that you’re going to be the New You, that you’re not going to let these Past negative, ego energies feed off of you anymore. It’s as simple as a choice.

There is only choice, and while that may sound wonderful, it requires a tremendous amount of personal responsibility. You can be anything that you want it to be, as long as you do love yourself.  And in loving yourself, you’ll understand yourself. No matter who you were in the Past – good, bad or in between – it is/was your Past. You no longer have to pay, feel guilty or have punishment/suffering once you have let it all go with forgiveness and love. There is NO bad luck, that is a cop out, a game – illusion you have been playing on yourself. It’s an experience, which you can stop as soon as you experienced it ENOUGH. There is nobody pulling any strings but you. I encourage each and every one of you to step up and take responsibility for your life. You have lived many lives upon the earth, many lives in the Universe – now live a happy, joyful one.

Granted, most of you have been given certain Belief Systems programming or controlling you over many lifetimes that you didn’t think you had a choice. It may take a little bit of practice and a little self-confidence to choose your choices. And there are varying degrees of perception available to you right now, one may be self-preservation by rejecting old Belief Systems. You need not know exactly the circumstances, you need only know the essence of the Past that does not work for you anymore. These new positive energies assist you in creating a greater, more stable foundation for where you are within your life. Breathe in that which balances the knowing that you can BE all that you want to Be, and DO all that you want to Do. If you feel the need to know more details of a Past Life, there are Earthly Guides who can help you with that. I need to add, that you should choose someone who has been recommended to you, so that you will be surrounded by Guardian Angels protecting you in the process. If Trauma is/was involved, you may not always like what you have done, or who you were in your Past. Still, if it is seeping into your current life, it does want to be released and forgiven.

There is a lot of unresolved emotional energy left over from countless lifetimes of unfinished business, when we are unable to find closure with our karma, or complete healing cycles. If in each new lifetime you take the opportunity to resolve this, you can avoid getting into a karmic cycle which stops the learning, as repeating the lesson over and over again. Using this process, you can get some understanding of why your situation, or the other person isn’t changing. Awarenesses have been received in this life, that with clarity and releasing, you can move onto the next relationship or interaction, with your changed energy resolution, and NOT get stuck in the illusion of the outcome, based on the Past. So you then have a celebration, not the repeated life challenges, a sad story over many lifetimes resolved, as this is what you have come to change in this life. You have grasped the power of the Present, as you realize that you can and must change the Past. Don’t wait for personal issues and blockages to tell you that something is seriously wrong. You may even have a sense of great fear or panic, claustrophobia and paranoia in large crowds as a traumatic re-enactment of a Past life bleeds into your current one. It can be something like an electrical charge in your spine or a recurring energy surge. If that probable Past is faced and deliberately changed, you have re-scripted your Past, and any fear from it eliminated. It is as if the trauma never occurred, and that is exactly what happens. You have the ability to remove trauma from the Past at anytime. God did not bring you to this planet to suffer. Instead, there’s the expectation of that magic moment when you’d have the epiphany: You’re a piece of God, You’re not just a Human Being, but a Spiritual Being having a human experience.

Move Past Your Past – Part #67©

Soul Groups #67 ©

Understanding Soul Groups is much like accepting as true the idea of intuition, synchronicity, reincarnation or manifesting something as basic as a parking space during busy times. It begins with the Metaphysical/Spiritual concept of us all choosing our parents and family for the experiences which they will give us, related to the lessons we need to learn in this particular life. The size of your soul group varies from life to life depending on what you need, and they in return need from you. It is sort of like a giant jigsaw puzzle, where just when you seem to get the pieces to fit, it is time to start over. So your current family, relatives, friends and so called enemies probably have played the life game with you multiple times before, but usually in various positions, as we are here for the challenge. Portraying the more ugly parts may actually speak of how much they love you, as they contribute to the lessons that you need to experience. While conscious in this life, we rarely have glimpses of who or what, we were in Past lives together. While blips may come out in dreams, or hypnotic past-life regression, this knowledge may or may not be helpful to us in this life.

Currently, we may have healing contracts with certain members of our soul groups, sort of like Karma clearing. This may mean that prior to our birth, we agreed as part of our life journey to complete those contracts. If you’ve had a problem or separation from a parent or sibling, and that irritation keeps coming back up, you have not healed that karma as hoped. They may be expecting your help to heal, but you may no longer want to deal with them, as their energy is so awry to yours. You may hope, or even help them to find other teachers that have more patience for their healing. Yet your moving on may leave you feeling guilty, as you don’t really have an acceptable solution to your contract. Still, is it fair you are so uncomfortable dealing with them, because of being out of a vibration? Unfortunately, your strong emotional DNA ties to your soul group may tempt you to delay your own growth, because you feel their pain and fear.

Exercise: This is where you need to examine your natural tendency to help them, just because that is what you have always done. Perhaps this is the life where you are strong enough, or ready to say, “No, I’m not going to delay my growth and movement. I have helped you so often before, and enough is enough. I cannot complete the contract if you are not willing to cooperate.” If many others in the soul group have given them one more chances repeatedly, for them to ‘see the light’ for the completion cycle of their healing, then it may be time to let go for this life time. If this is the story you believe, then the choice for you is obvious, to continue your move into your higher vibration, and experience your reality from this new level. We are all given the opportunity to complete our cycles, and move into higher levels of being, to accept new vibrations for ascending. But not everyone is ready, nor willing to do the work that is required for their completion. Who you are becoming is not who you’ve been, and no one has the right to hold you back from your Divine Destiny or happiness. Family may be blood, but not a life-saving match to you. It may be part of their game to see how long they can hold you at their level. As they say about rejection in your hometown, it would be more so in a family rejecting bold, brazen stars showing them all up.

If in this life time, this related person may not have had to be responsible or accountable for many of their actions, because of parents or spouses, or even children taking care of them. Then they often cannot face the painful choices we’ve all had to learn, to heal and grow without our hands being held or our feet guided. Your choice has to sometimes be self-preservation, and what is best for your own soul growth. We must then disconnect energetically from those others in our soul group to allow them to perhaps find their own power for their healing and ascension in their own way, perhaps in another time. We can only guide everyone to the light, even those of your soul group, but that final choice is theirs. So you can then gently disconnect from your contract and release yourselves from the commitment of their healing. Hopefully, as you complete your cycles, you are allowing them to develop their empowerment and divinity on their own, without sacrificing your own soul growth in the process. Remember it is a singular path. There are no lessons learned if you are carrying them and making the decisions.

When your mind has slipped outside of accepting unconditional love, which we all do from time to time, your immediate loneliness makes you feel its need to assert power and control over your situations. This is, of course, without acknowledging that on its own, this mind has created this reality. The ego, along with the insecurities of fear, quickly denies that its clever mind took part in any self-sabotage resulting in your suffering, injustices, or betrayals being experienced. In its avoidance, and fear of being judged harshly for its mistakes, your ego immediately projects those errors on others – usually in the soul group – rather than judging itself. This human mind has forgotten the attributes of the Divine mind, where knowing its loved unconditionally is basic. All kinds of emotional and psychological patterns emerge from simple procrastination – not making a decision of action, to passive-aggressive – where one moment blaming oneself to the next of blaming everyone else. Usually the target of such reproaches is someone within the soul group, as there is a safety of non-violence for the bad behavior, yet resentment, as these people know your deepest secrets more than anyone else.

Perhaps the most revealing story I could tell of my mother is the day following my father’s funeral, after the relatives living within the area had returned to their homes. My hapless sister and I had traveled together – at my father’s request to get us to reunite, which didn’t really work -  so we were staying a few days. I went to the grocery store to get some basics and stuff for sandwiches for my mother and our road trip. My father loved the Deli section, and I picked up most of what I remembered that they liked, including a fresh loaf of Jewish Rye bread. Money had not been a problem, though they had both been living off retirement for many years. I came in with all of the fixing, and proudly announced them to my mother, as I entered the kitchen. Trying to please my mother was a long time thing, which I truly thought I had passed, especially by moving far away, and having her out of my daily life. Sitting at the table, she looked up at me and said, “You know I never really liked rye bread, I just ate it because your father loved it so much.” I plopped down in a chair and just stared at her, as they had been married over fifty years, and she had not hesitated to chastise him or speak her mind. Also, I distinctly remembered us four kids, having several different kinds of bread in the house all the time. Choices and availability of food had never been a problem.

My mother’s favorite game was stoicism, and often moved up a notch to rescuer or even martyrdom – “Look what I’ve done for you; I was only doing what was best for you;” or her favorite, “How could you do such a thing to embarrass me so, what will the neighbors think?”  When I finally questioned her as to why she would eat bread that she didn’t like all those years, she again simply said how much my father liked it, as if her eating it made him happy. I then commented, that I doubted that he could have cared less whether or not she ate what he ate, as their taste with many foods varied. I think my final comment, as I should have remembered there was really no use in arguing with her, was something like she just enjoyed punishing herself and blaming others for it. She started to cry, asking why I was still so mean to her. Which meant, of course, as an adult I had accused her of her game-playing, stoicism, etc. about ten years prior and she literally had a stroke. Not my finest hour, but then I had put up with it all for about thirty years – including almost killing myself. I left about six months later to freedom, and a new life alone far, far away from her. Having it all then come sweeping back to my memory was my fault for being pulled into her game. I was still being controlled by that child inside wanting to be accepted by her.

I share all this with the reality of the reoccurrence of understanding Soul Groups. This telling acknowledgment and eventual acceptance of it was more difficult with the premise that we choose our parents, siblings, etc., as well as our birth order. Had my older sister and the younger of my older brothers really been playing a designated role of hapless twits in this life for me, my lessons? Sadly, yes. When younger, I could only relate more to my oldest brother, but then even that faded over time. I kid you not, I had often been asked if I wasn’t secretly adopted. If it had not been for my closeness to my father – physically and emotionally – I would have considered it. Though I admit my position of unexpected late last child, played a major role in my non-acceptance and treatment in the family, especially by my mother and sister. Now, I’ve often wondered how many lifetimes we all had been together, and what positions we played out for one another to have the lessons/experiences to be learned in those lives. I eventually believed that I had created some whopper of Karma in those Past lives that totally got dished back to me in this one. These are the major forgiveness patterns that we all need to recognize and process. This life is a game, it has been hundreds of times over for many of us, and think of the people you choose to play with you – those you love.

On the other hand, consider those distant relatives or cousins that many ethnic groups, races, etc. that have been fighting each other for eons. You shake those family trees and we know they are related. They have chosen to keep hatred for who even knows what any more – politics, religions, cultural traditions? It may have started with jealousy, resentment, or simply fear of one having more power or being more successful than other. If asked, most would not even know why they war and kill each other, as it is an old belief system from their Past that has told to them to believe and follow. So we might say, that some Souls as they are returning, rather than grow by choosing new families, want to return to what they know best. Sad, very sad indeed, and also makes my family not so difficult anymore to accept as my choice from my Soul Group.

Move Past Your Past – Part #66 ©

Karma Law #66 ©

While the Universe does not test us – though we often think we are playing the part of a modern day Job, it does give us opportunities to express our beliefs, or do the right thing – in other words “practice what we preach.” We often don’t think of the little things as being Karma collectors, and only those big things that others (bankers, profiteers) do that clearly spell out: G-R-E-E-D. Yet, even the small things – like keeping the wrong change – set up the Cause & Effect Law of Karma that puts results or consequences into motion. These little “dings” can cause delays, or permanent stoppage on an intention you want to manifest. They change the vibration of your positive energy, which needs a certain frequency for manifesting things in your life. So if you’re not getting what you desire, you may want to look back on some of your actions, messages or negative thoughts. Just because your Past taught that “a white lie was OK,” or that “possession was nine-tenths of the law, or finders-keepers,” doesn’t mean it was right or just. That would be like someone catching a shoplifter and making them share their bounty, or they’d turn them in. Two wrongs never make a right. Many think that the missteps of Karma are the “shit happens” of everyday life. Yes, probably so, but what if it didn’t have to happen? So, be aware of your horn and patience and rudeness to pedestrian and other drivers.

While I was living in Japan and traveled often throughout Asia, I had the opportunity of buying pirated tapes, CDs and videos. At first I took advantage of it, feeling the big producers could afford the loss, but often the material was not what they had said, and rarely worth the price I paid. But Karma being what it is and was, I could not scream, but I did cry when my own copyrighted material was stolen and offered to others. With awareness, when later offered real ivory and tortoise, I refused it, though others said it didn’t matter since the animal was already dead. I knew it did matter to the future animals that would be slaughtered to replace what had been bought. So much of what we do is done not out of actual harmful purpose, but without awareness and actual stupidity to open our eyes to the consequences of our actions. This is truly what this law of Cause and Effect is all about – stop and think what your actions, or negative energy is doing that will be boomeranged back to you in multiple amounts.

Exercise: So fully understanding all of the Universal Laws can help you to comprehend why certain things may befall you, when you think you’ve been a ‘good’ person, not cheating anyone out of their life savings, etc. People don’t trip over mountains, it is always the pebbles along the path that can send you over the edge – literally, as well as figuratively. These Laws do not make judgments, they simply create an effect for every cause. Think of them as computer oriented – they can only respond to what has been programed in, so there is no special treatment or exceptions for anyone or thing. If we do positive things in helping people, donating, or act in responsible ways in gratitude, forgiveness; the effect/results is returned to us exponentially. Think of it as Lady Justice NOT blindfolded, but having 360 degree eyesight at all times, everywhere. Those scales are out there measuring and weighing everything we do or say, as the Law of Karma is working to teach us or bless us, and sometimes both simultaneously. Don’t forget, even your thoughts, beliefs and energy have an affect on those scales.

While no one can play Goody-Two-Shoes, Pollyanna, or Hero all the time, you can be a far cry from the bully or egotistical “It’s ALL about me shallow person.” Yet some people, who are very career-driven, don’t realize how insensitive or inflexible they are, as they justify it with being fair, as in not being compassionate to anyone. They do not understand loyalty or appreciation, in that efficiency is everything when people are paid fairly for the job they do. These are the classic “ends justifying the means,” as long as they don’t technically break any human laws. They usually don’t consider themselves as cruel or even a mean person, just doing what they think is right, or expected of them to do. Most of us are not even aware of the energetic vibrations that we are putting out, but others can quickly pick up the negative resonance in a room, or even single out the source. What is most fascinating, and referred to before, is that this negativity all comes from Fear. If this idea of fear was posed to that person vibrating it, they would think you were crazy, weird and probably offensive. If you wanted to freak them out even more, just tell them that it can be cured or removed by love – the perfect transformation would be if it was unconditional love. Of course, that is not going to happen, as the person has to want to change, which starts with awareness and acknowledgment. Then again, you can offer an opinion that being more acceptable of others is a start, and go from there.

The best situation, as stated prior, is to lead by example. So when someone notices how positive and happy your life is, you simply tell them that you work at staying in a positive vibration of love. If you haven’t lost them, you can add that you’ve continuously work at letting go of anger, doubt, fear and any negative actions or thoughts. The magic starts when they ask how and why you’ve done this, and you move onto unconditional love and how the positive energy creates miracle manifesting. Remember one does not need to be a passionate cheerleader that comes off as, “I’m better and more advanced than you are,” or even intimidating, as if you belong to this exclusive club that isn’t accepting any new members. We are not reformers to the extent that convert to our obsessive ways and beliefs, or die. This would not make us that different from the above described “ends justifying the means.” Think the Crusades, and how much positive they did Not accomplish – there is still War in the Middle East. We don’t want passion that eventually burns out, or addiction that alienates all who are not on a par with our feelings. Passion, like heroism has its place and purpose. But the middle road is always the best, as we fully acknowledge that we are not perfect, as it is not what we are striving for on this Earth plane. We appreciate the happiness of our success, and offer the choice to others to find their paths. Their is a contentment and satisfaction of doing what one loves to do, with the bonus of positive feedback.

Acceptance is a key part in that what you see inside another person is often what we don’t like within ourselves. You point it out in another, so they don’t notice it in you. If we are All One, then acceptance and tolerance is the foundation. Also, being stoic and feeling that you have to suffer to be rewarded is not part of Karma. There are no evils in wealth, as long as you’ve earned by your own talents and not Past ancestors through their graft or greed. The important thing is to share it with others so you will also receive back abundance in kind in what is given.

Move Past Your Past – Part #65 ©

Past Pain #65 ©

As previously mentioned, on the Spiritual path things or situations will happen that jerk us back to our prior Past, freezing us in our tracks. I have mentioned several different processes to help get you started again, depending how deep or hurtful or fearful the memory was that attacked you – which is what it really did. First of all, there will always be people, places, or things-situations that will remind us of our Past. No one was raised living in Disneyland, or if your parents were overly protective, you were not that prepared for the real world. Bullies always exist in all arenas, and jealousies raged in junior/senior high school much like they do in our adult life. Yet, that knowledge does not make the situation easier, or more acceptable. Some pain, no matter how much you deep breathe it, talk to yourself, or even examine it to forgive yourself and others involved – still hurts. Some pains also come back to haunt us, period.

Exercise: So lets look at some steps to take to release you of those truly painful pains of the Past. Reoccurring pains come back as there is some definite fear or ego attached, that just wants to hang onto you. As soon as it happened, you need to start examining the situation that brought it back – How was this similar to the original? Who, what, where was/were involved in the original pain? What was your reaction at the time? Was fear involved? Did you at the time talk to, question or confront others involved? Have you since? Even if the people involved are now deceased, you can still speak to them effectively. Have you gone through the Forgiveness Letters – even though not mailed, sometimes more appropriate than doing it in person – including a letter forgiving yourself? Did this pain leave you with a physical reaction – stutter, tick, fear/phobia, etc.? Have you ever had counseling, or talked with someone you trusted with your feelings? Can you accept and believe that you are no longer that person who received this pain? If you can take the time to journal, or write down some of this information with truthful answers, it will help the pain let go. Somehow the process of pen to paper releases so much of our pent-up emotions and painful feelings.

No matter how adult you think you are, when dealing with feelings/emotions do not waste your time to attempt to apply logic to releasing Past hurt/pain. It is simply apples and oranges. Look at Reality TV – how can they become so manipulative, etc. when it is only a game? It is life in a microcosm, and you need to accept that real life is still a game. Or take for instance young star-struck fans who scream, yell or faint. Sure, at 13 we accept it, but what do you call an adult who stalks a celebrity? We certainly cannot see any logic, but there is also truly a lot of emotional feelings being expressed and painfully rejected. Our feelings connect to one another for the best and worse reasons, which does not make them bad or good. It is still better to have the feelings than go through life apathetic. Following and trusting our intuitive feelings is about as close to logic that we can ever expect to get from them. Again, it is better to have real, true feelings we do believe in, than put forth fake ones to please others, or not act as your mother may have said “unacceptable or inappropriate.”

Our emotional feelings are what make us human, so repressing them can take much of our humanness away from us. In extreme cases, people have become sociopaths or even psychopaths, hurting strangers for no apparent reason, or they reminded them of something/someone from their Past. It is healthy to release pain, at least to yourself, if not to another. It is no longer considered a sign of weakness, but of being human. So don’t let the ego keep you bottled up and becoming humorless, rigid or poisoned on the inside. No one goes through life without some pain, yet it is personal and individual. Thus, it is an inadvertent discount when someone haplessly says, “”I know just how you feel.” We want to say, “But, you don’t! It’s my pain and I’m feeling it!” Yet we know they are merely being kind, or trying to make us feel better, or they really are discounting us, because they don’t want to be involved in our problems. If you were walking around smiling or even being blissful all the time, people would definitely call an ambulance, or report you to Human Resources as an itinerant employee about to go ballistic. So, damned if you smile too much, and damed if you don’t cope with it all.

Your painful feelings are a problem in that they are slowing you down from the new life you want to have. Some of these are basic anger, fear, or simply situations which have left you with feelings of inadequacy that are holding you back from success. Knowing the source or root cause of a pain reveals it, acknowledges it, or brings it to light for what it needs to heal it. Truly that light in the previous scary darkness brings enlightenment that often dissolves the power of the pain. It sometimes has to be mentally/visually re-experienced to see it for what it was to no longer have the power over you. Recognizing what kind of pain is triggered to come back to you, is necessary in being able to release or neutralize it from stopping you in your tracks, and impeding your growth. Read the following list – any words that bring a “ping” to your emotions/feelings needs to be written down and thought about:  Anger – Clumsy – Disappointment – Dread – Embarrassment – Envy – Fear – Fear of small spaces, heights, water, insects, other – Guilt – Ineptness – Inadequacy – Jealousy – Physical Pain – Sadness – Scared of what – Shame – Too fat/thin – Ugly – Unloved – Unworthy – Worry – What else?

If the source or root of this pain is not immediate, approach it from as many different angles as possible, as you may have buried it really deep. This is like toxic material that has begun to surface, so its removal is the only way to keep it from continually infecting you. Be prepared that once you discover it you may be shocked, for if it was from a really early age, you may now know that it was a misconception or something totally misconstrued like still being angry at an older sibling for telling you Santa wasn’t real. It may also have been something that you overheard, not only not meant for your ears, but not even referring to you – a child overhearing adults referring to a parent who would never find happiness in marriage, but the child took its meaning upon themselves. Some painful feelings may have contributed to habits you developed to counter them – dread may lead to procrastination; ineptness may have lead to being indecisive, so not making a decision you may feel you can’t make any mistakes.

Note: If you have a strong emotional fear of physical pain, you may want to seriously consider professional therapy as the trauma of buried abuse may be ready to come forth. None of these processes are meant to replace professional help in any way, nor will you ever be “pain-free” from your Past situations. What, hopefully, will happen is that you will be able to turn them into small blips, that may cause you to miss a step or two, but then tell yourself – “That was then, and this is now. I am no longer that person.” and continue to move on up. Some pains will be released enough to eventually fade away, and no longer have the affect, or control over you as you have truly grown beyond them. Others may take a retreat of 24 – 72 hours to kind of wallow totally, and thoroughly in that lost Past of pain, or hurtful memories and feelings. This satiation will sometimes give the pain – especially if connected to that child inside you – the love/recognition that it needs before it can let go of you. Yes, there may be screaming, yelling, crying and beating of pillows, but if that is what it takes to be released, then you need to do it. You may also get to know yourself more and better than you ever have before. Afterwards, freer and self-accepting, ask for the presence of Grace to enfold you, and a Golden Light of Forgiveness to surround and fill you, and others involved with the pain of your Past. Be sure to fill that vacant pain spot with Golden Light/Love.

Some pain, as in losing a loved one, some people don’t want to let go of, so they don’t have to return to living life on their own. Even when they feel at fault or guilty for some reason, they can learn to visually move those lost-love feelings to a special corner of their heart and mind. There they can then stroll down memory lane with all the good, happy and personal times they had with that person any time they wish, or need to recall them. That is healthy in that you, the survivor can continue on with life, yet keep that loved one with you. It is important to remember that no one, NO ONE dies before their time – even in disasters, accidents or suicides. Their soul made a contract which they agreed to prior to their birth regarding their death. There is a purpose or reason for how someone dies as to the affect it has on others. Eventually, you will see and accept, that Good ALWAYS comes out of something bad – everything as a lesson. We are ALL One and connected – accept this or not, it is your choice, but it is one of the principles of Metaphysics and Universal Law.

Don’t forget as mentioned before, you may be carrying pain from a Past life or from generations past in this life, that you are not really aware. You may need a good healer who has worked with these situations. Or, your Chakras need a really good clearing/cleansing which pain indicates. Karma, whether from this life or others, can bring in some physical pain in your bones or joints, as that speaks of deep aspects needing to be cleared. The more often that you do Chakra/ energy clearing and other body work, the more you will be capable of warding off any of these Past pains to invade you. This is why regular physical and emotional assessing is so very important.

Exercise II: Forgiveness is also letting go of the attachment of the negative energy of the other person. This then releases that negative energy within yourself. It is that negative energy which makes the pain reoccur within yourself. Depending on how deep this pain is, which either has to do with how long you’ve had it or how powerful the incident. Then the forgiveness may need to be multi-layered, and you will feel a release after each session. Along with that may be visualizing what part of your body is affected most. If you are having a problem finding the part, just concentrate on your heart. See the dark spot dissolved as you release it. Working with deep breathing – Love in – Pain out; Forgiveness in – Pain out;  Release in – Fear out; or any other words that feel right to you. Forgiveness is all about love, unconditional towards yourself and all others.

Move Past Your Past – Part 64 ©

More Involved Manifesting – #64 ©

While tons of information has been written about manifesting what you want, most of it has suggested all you have to do is snap your fingers and voila! When it doesn’t come true, most people just blow it off as another airy-fairy thing from the woo-woo people. What they probably didn’t mention, since they are trying to reach out to the uninitiated, or people who have Not been studying Metaphysics/Spirituality, is that it takes work. And more involved, there are rules. Actually, they are the Universal Laws, of which there are twelve. An understanding of each is required to comprehend just how complicated manifesting can be when you may be violating basic Laws that you are not familiar with at all. Since they are all tied together, they also involve manifesting your requests. While it is not a question that Source wants you to have all of the abundance you want in the world – as it is unlimited – it is slightly more complicated than “Ask, and you shall receive.” I always preferred: “God helps those that help themselves.”

Exercise: These are the Twelve Universal Laws – which they affect all of us without judgment, whether you believe in them or not. It is your job to look them up (the internet has them) and read them until you at least basically understand them – following them may be another thing. They are rather simple, yet therein lies the difficulty to fully comprehending them and their power.  1. The Law of Divine Oneness; 2. The Law of Vibration; 3. The Law of Attraction; 4. The Law of Abundance; 5. The Law of Action; 6. The Law of Cause and Effect (Karma); 7. The Law of Compensation; 8. The Law of Correspondence; 9. The Law of Energy; 10. The Law of Relativity; 11. The Law of Polarity; 12. The Law of Rhythm. This is very Key: You must read them ALL, not just the ones that you think you need to know. They ALL work together for manifesting.

The next misconception most people have is not understanding that God/Source does not wear a Timex, or even have a clock or calendar. Time was created, and thus controlled by man. Divine timing is fluid and not linear, like man’s time. So, you need to keep in mind Divine timing, when asking the same request over and over. While saying affirmations or chants may be good for you, in convincing yourself that you truly deserve what you want – especially with a lot of emotion, it is not the most productive approach to God/Source. Once, if stated with that strong, deep emotional desire, is sufficient. It is a Universal principle that truths and desires are revealed at their appropriate time, and not a moment sooner. Trust me, you were heard, but you, yourself, may not be ready for what you are asking for, or it may not be for your highest good. You all know the saying: “Be careful what you ask for . . . .” These may be those lessons brought to you that were very painful, and you may even end up blaming God/Source for cursing you with what you actually asked for to have – repeatedly.

    The thing that you wanted may have been pushed further into the future because of a host of factors, some of which may have little or nothing to do with you. Or God/Source knows you’re going to learn this is not what you really want or need. For another thing, what you wanted may be configured in a different way for your highest good. Perhaps it will still manifest, but it may take you a while to recognize it. Or, it may also be a much more wonderful version coming your way down the road once it’s invented or revamped. These may sound like confusing excuses, but things aren’t always simple.

But most importantly, being able to manifest or bring forth what you want requires that you are in alignment with what you say you want and desire. That is to say, in that you truly believe you deserve or actually want it. In other words, if they are only words, not true emotional feelings of your deepest desires, the Universe/Source doesn’t bring it forth. Any negative doubt, fear or worry will also negate your manifestation. So if your belief of worthiness of receipt counters your desire, it will not be manifested. You need to carefully examine both your verbal and thought requests with what deeply resonates within your heart and soul, so it will be manifested. If beliefs from your Past limit your worthiness, you’ll only get say $100, not $100,000. Need to do some examination on it.

Releasing the attachment to, or the expectation of a result is important for the situation to be kept freely flowing to you. As soon as you instill any control, you are also putting limitations or restrictions on the request. If you are going to ask Source for something, you MUST surrender and release all of your resistance to being the one in control of the results. If you think you can do it alone, then do so; or if you think you can do it better, then do so! But if you are going to Ask for Divine Will or Divine Guidance, then don’t give Source the directions You want it to take. You must have faith and trust in turning it all over to Source to bring forth what it is that you are asking to be brought forth. Otherwise, you are putting up blocks, roadblocks, walls or even speed bumps that will slow down or restrict the flow of all of the positive energies of joy and peace for the miracles to be brought forth.

To be in the flow, You must allow the flow to be, which means not interfering or controlling – let it Be-let it go. You will truly see things shifting in your life as you release your ego from controlling. Know that what Source is bringing, is for your highest good and will guide you on your path for the highest good of all. It’s usually when we experience something that we don’t want, that we get clarity on what we do want.

You must believe that you are truly moving toward your heart’s desires. You must believe you are in synchronistic flow for all of your heart’s desires to come to you. Balance – Patience – Timing of synchronicity – if you didn’t get what you thought you would within the time frame you expected it would arrive, then let it go for now. Synchronized timing is for your best and highest good, and the highest good of all. Freedom from time – happy to know it will come when it is best for it to come. Therefore, no worries, no dramas, no anxiety. You must have absolutely no doubt that whatever is expected will appear at the best time for you.

Intention is not something we do, but something we connect to in the Universe through Source, as Source is Intention. Everything is intended – all things come from Source – we are all connected. It animates all life – how well we are connected to Source states how we get those things we want. When thought and emotion come together – “mountains can be moved.” What reasons you want something with emotion, and why you believe you will get it, is your mental state of being and what attracts things to you.

The act of focusing our consciousness is an act of creation. Consciousness creates all we have, all the power we need to create all the changes we choose. The focus of our awareness becomes the reality of our world. To simply say that we choose a new reality is not enough. Feeling as though your goal is accomplished with gratitude and appreciation that your prayer is already answered, is key. These are feelings created without ego and judgment. This is believing ‘as if’ you already know 100% that your request will come forth. This means you need to do whatever it takes to convince yourself of this, there can be no doubts or hesitations. I knew a woman who could do the most amazing intention requests and affirmations, and so be in the flow with her emotions – then after completion she would giggle or laugh. I asked her why she did that, and she admitted that she didn’t really believe she deserved any of which she had just asked. In talking, she shared extreme negativity from her childhood. Obviously, that Past stuff – and it is just that – needs to be cleared first. Since she rarely received anything asked for, I wondered why she bothered. She said she hoped that as Source did give her some things, that she would come to believe that she deserved more.

There is no need to give up your dreams just because your parents – or whomever – didn’t have their dreams fulfilled. There is also no need for you to feel guilty being happy if others from your Past weren’t. When you are ‘right’ with yourself, you are allowing all abundance to come to you, and you have great appreciation for it, having brought it to yourself by believing that you truly deserve it. Appreciation is true love for yourself, God/Source and ALL things – it is also absence of doubt or fear, or self denial – or hatred of others. When things don’t seem to be moving in your life, make a list of all the positive things in your life. Look for things to love and appreciate, as you are open, willing and allowing for even more that God/Source brings to you with continued great Love-Appreciation. Take nothing for granted, except that you are loved unconditionally.

If your thoughts and beliefs are not in alignment with your intention, your desire, then it cannot not be manifested. In other words if you merely doubt you won’t receive it, much less say it out loud, it will not be manifested. You do need to have a good understanding of the Universal Laws and how they work in tandem with each for manifesting what you want. Yet, most importantly is that you are practicing them and that puts you at the right vibration to receive what you are asking for. Our vibrational frequency – the higher the better – is in direct correlation to how much we have moved from fear to love and our connection to Source. Yet, again not just in our lives for ourselves, but how much we practice it to others. As always, it is a step process of moving towards the positive in no longer being afraid, doubtful, disillusioned, depressed or angry, which are all still fear based. The moment that we move into unconditional love for ourselves and others, this energy leaves us open for the manifestation of miracles to be brought to us. It is important to remember that what we cannot manifest today, we have the chance to do so tomorrow. It is not about prior failure or mistakes – they are always in the Past, and not held against us. We are always given another day to experience a joyful life with peace and abundance in all things. Greed – and all of its non-sharing distinguished characteristics – is not positively manifested. Karma will balance it when you least expect it to do so.

Move Past Your Past – Part #63 ©

Transformation #63 ©

Transformation is the giant step in the change process. There are many ways you can change – physically how you look, mentally how you think and even emotionally how you feel. Those changes stem from who you were, but no longer want to be. Yet, if we say that a person has totally transformed, it is as if they have no relationship to who/what they were in their Past. Like the amnesiac, they have no known Past that they have escaped from to be this new person. Think of the word metamorphosis, as in the funny looking caterpillar transforming to the beautiful butterfly. This is no Cinderella story, as she knew from whence she came and would return – her Past existence. The light, airy butterfly has no memory of any Past life as a lowly caterpillar, and simply enjoys flitting around doing its job of pollinating. But then, as controlled by instinct, it will lay the eggs which go into the larvae, then the caterpillar and finally a pupa or chrysalis becoming the butterfly again to repeat the cycle.

We could say that the butterfly has no baggage of its Past life, or even related to its life stages. So there is nothing to speak of to hold it back – pushy mother, neglectful father, poverty or lack of education – just the self-made butterfly, its own persona. Not quite the same for us humans. Even the child adopted from birth may later question where they came from, and why their birth parents gave them up. This may be a whole revealing, growth quest or an obsession that holds them back from becoming who they might have been, with all of the advantages of the new parentage they were given. Or, think of the music or movie stars, who go from oblivion to crushing celebrity in the occasional overnight sensation situation, that they cannot begin to handle.

While one may be instant and the other a life-growth process, much has to do with one’s attitude and behavior in how it is handled. No matter how much you may have wanted the success or questions answered, being prepared for the reality is not something you can actually do. We are not the caterpillars crawling on the ground, who suddenly decide they want to be in the sky flying as butterflies instead. As humans, our instincts are more limited in telling us what we have to do. You have choices – even when you have a pushy mother – and you have the process of reason to help you make those choices, but you often still choose mistakes or missteps. Remember, there are no wrong ones – they are all experiences for us to learn lessons.

Exercise: Even with a good life education and positive direction, finding one’s true path and making the changes needed for a full transformation can take years with more slips or missteps along the way. Think about, and write down, what missteps you have had along the way? How has your life changed? What have you learned from them? They didn’t seem positive at the time? Thus, a major part of taking on the mantle of real transformation has to do with accepting ourselves as who we are Now. Which you can do, if you’ve completely let go of your Past, or it’s being just that – a Past life. There may have been many battles – personal or more public – and most of us give a rousting applause to those who have overcome demons or other addictions, to fulfill their destinies of success in whatever field. Some cocoons take longer to complete the growth change than others, so we may have to return to the cocoon for another start.

These things have usually made us stronger, although there are also those who failed to find the support from within or without. An important cautionary part of this tale is that not all people, especially those from one’s Past, will accept the transformed you. Reformed alcoholics or addicts are not usually well accepted by their ‘using’ friends. Their belief in who you now are, is not necessary for you to be who you are. Just keep believing in yourself and know what your beliefs are, and that you live by them every day. Do not try to change their perceptions, they may eventually accept you from your actions, but move on and spread your new wings to fly your own way. Remember, you can share the world with others without sharing their world view.

Change is threatening to the ego – yours and others around connected to you. Ego believes security comes from clinging on or attachment to the old ways. Remember that any change you make, which is aligned with your inner truth, is always a healthy improvement. Think of your first high school or college reunion, where usually the largest transformation may be noted in each other. They usually start out at every ten years, and then as we age they are moved up to five years or less. Refuse to go into judgment with yourself or others, when you either haven’t changed enough to your liking, or they simply haven’t noticed. What positive qualities you may have developed may be totally different for them and their Belief Systems. While you may have moved way past the big money, title, job or even address, their egos and insecurities may still cherish these things. Actions speak louder than words, so show compassion with others who have different values. You may be planting useful seeds which will germinate when those things become shallow, and no longer bring them joy, or even the satisfaction, as they thought they should. You are now allowing for the Universal Laws of Cause and Effect to run its course.

There is, of course, no need to rescue or preach, as you show love to yourself and others, especially when they have known you to be harsh and critical in the Past. You are no longer connected to that old paradigm with negative views or messages to the world. You are in the process of revamping. and erasing your Past conditioning, as you have set your intention to be more awake to any limiting-negative thoughts. You are accelerating the shifting into new positive vibrational energies for full transformation. You have become more conscious of what negatively impacts your present, so you will have more power to alter your future. You are now fully cognizant of creating your future by how you respond to life today. You do not allow gloom-and-doom thinking of others to color your world with negative bleakness. The “Mute” word is worn off my remote control button, and that is not just for commercials. I enjoy listening to the news, but since Negative and Fear “sell,” I don’t allow it to creep into my being, even by osmosis.

I believe that the real Truth comes from my God/Source heart connection, which gives me inner peace. Yet I understand, that since I live in the reality of the real world, this involves connecting a balance with my truth. Still, I believe there is no truth in the negative, fear mongering approach. Don’t bring it up if you don’t have a suggestion to fix it! Simply talking about something creates a growing negativity, or vicious circle of Self-fulfilling Prophecy. That is not part of my journey, or the path connected with my heart, as I am intuitively guided to my transformation.

The group consciousness will either grow with a positive awareness, heralding new creative inroads of expanding into joy, or continue its trek into negative muck and mire. This does require stepping out of limited thinking, and of repeating the sad, old stories from the Past. Yes, the world contains much pain, abuse and greed, etc. But if we focus on liberation from these thoughts in the Now moments, we are no longer allowing the Past to hold us back. That is real transformation, and can be had by any who are willing to work for it.

As you disengage from what no longer represents who you are, fear may be stirred up. Again, as recommended before, using your breath, to deep breathe yourself back into focusing on your heart with the love coming in, and the fear going out. As you continue to deep breathe, repeat other positive thoughts, such as what Gandhi said, you can “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” There is no secret ingredient in life, no fast-forward button, quick fix or short cuts. We have lessons to learn, to grow and to move forward on our path. The Transformation will come as we Believe in our heart Truth as Love creates our Power to manifest and realize the magic and miracles that abound in life. And, if you question when your work is done here on earth, and you are still breathing, then it isn’t.

Most of us know, and accept, that we opted to be here at this moment for our own evolution, and to share our Light with others who want it. You can not save the whole world, as the whole world is not ready for you to save it. We are here to serve the world as much as we can with our talents, yet we are also here for the sheer joy of living life. Hopefully we have learned that there is no need for our suffering, others may need to relieve themselves of their own suffering, you cannot do it for them. You can simply be the Wayshower, and the Lightworker by your Transformation away from all that is negative.

Move Past Your Past – Part 62©

Being of Service #62 ©

Money and material things do not fill the void within us, and do not necessarily show love when given to us. Insecurities and lack of real self-confidence may be masked by expensive things, but they cannot replace unconditional love from another or ourselves. You will not be remembered for the “Bling” you wear, but for the Service that you give to others. “You get all you want in your life by helping other people to get what they want in their lives.” What you may have been told or seen in your Past, usually only feeds inner-conflict and the feeling of self-doubt of who you are and can be. When you can no longer accept your strings being pulled like a performer from a circus act, Self-exploration may be required to change the direction your life’s sojourn. The giving of Service can bring real Bliss, which beats out Bling once you’ve experienced it.

Exercise: Clarity does not come easily for you to see who is really in the mirror when your friends – entourage – keeps it smoked over. It is time for another real ‘stare-down’ of yourself in the mirror. Spend at least ten minutes looking into your eyes and who you see in there. Just removing the mask for most of us on the Spiritual Path is the first easy step on a long list of changes. What remains is often an ego more complex, and doesn’t appear in an easy to understand form – think octopus with its tendrils deeply embedded to keep you totally clutched in its power. What changes have you already made? What changes do you still feel you need to make? The choices are not so clearly defined as to the changes needed next for you to grow, and to discover your Divine Destiny. These are not loaded dice where every chance is a winner, as it is no longer just about you. Being of Service means that you know that what you do will serve others through the highest good for all. What talents can you really share? Is there still a dream that you have yet to unleash, or at least develop? Fear and avoidance doesn’t work here for long. Sometimes in avoiding our destiny, by taking another path we run right into it. This is your truth of what you are here to do, and when you accept that discovery, you are clearly on your path to great achievements! It is showing appreciation to God/Source for your talents by sharing them with others.

Your belief in your Self does not need to be confirmed by others for you to be who you are. It is only necessary for you to believe in yourself, and those beliefs which you live by every day. Breaking away from your Old Beliefs for your new growth and support usually brings pain, because you’re separated from others you’ve moved beyond. You will soon meet more people of like-mind, as you demonstrate who you are now. You learn to understand that you can share the world with others without sharing their same world-view. Kind of like when you’ve forgiven someone, it does not mean that you have to be best friends with them.

How you view the world from a ‘fixed’ perspective or flexible one, represents how open or exposed your world is to other situations or possibilities. How far back do you need to step to truly clarify your goals, so they reflect your vision of the Big Picture? In all things there are blind spots, simply because we do not have 360 degrees of sight; we barely have 180. There will always be things that you do not know, and if you did, that knowing might adjust your view. Life cannot be lived under a magnifying glass nor with binoculars. It needs to be lived face to face in real time.

A break-through of acceptance is when you are willing to change your mind or your goals, once new information is brought to your attention or awareness. To proceed forward when you know there are blind spots is a fool’s folly based on ego. This would be similar to making up a story based on few facts, but perpetuating it to be true. Like using the child’s ‘telephone’ game as a basis for an important decision, or in defense of an error regarding an accident that could have been prevented. You need to take time to check out the facts. Just as no one is perfect, no one knows everything, even when it is related to something that you’ve done before. Few things remain the same for long.

Communication is more than the language that we speak. True communication means that there is a speaker as well as a receiver(s) of the message. The receiver’s perception of us has great influence on how our communication will be accepted or interpreted by them. Many marketers and retailers have learned that lesson the hard way. Likewise, how we perceive others will influence how we speak to them. We all may have an information overload at our finger tips or ears, yet miscommunication or misinformation is also rampant without discernment. Understanding we are All One, and connected is progress, accepting that without judgment is a process. Letting go of Past interpretations of others will make the steps easier.

We are all linked in and connected to one another, yet this is sometimes easier to understand when we stay in our comfort zone. Once you get out of it, where you are among more people who are very different from yourself, confusion can prevail. This is especially true if we take the time to try to understand regional customs – beliefs that in our own country feel foreign to us. But actual foreign travel is the very best experience, even if it is only to our neighbors north and south. Of course, passing through like a tourist simply for the well known sites or shopping, is not the same as staying a few days to know the locals. As long as your mind is open and you are willing to try new things – you don’t have to like them, but you won’t know until you try them – it will reduce any prejudice, or just narrow-mindedness that you might have. Awareness comes in all forms and from all people, if you are just open to the opportunity to receive it. Lao Tsu: “He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.” Your ups and down can be a real thrill roller-coaster filled with Past baggage, or an enjoyable, freeing rolling hills kind of ride. It is, as always, up to you and your choices.

We learn to be more of service once we experience which of our skills will be most helpful to others. Most of us have talents that are unknown to us, but are seen and appreciated by others. Keep the Past out of the Future, so it is open for creative invention. We cannot move forward with new ideas when our feet are stuck in old ways of the Past. Think in a way that you have not thought before – how far out in left field can you go for an original idea? When you look for the positive, you will find it. Likewise, it is also with the negative. Being positive/optimistic is like being a magnet. Remember: You always teach best what you most need to learn. Human Beings are the only creatures on Earth that can consciously choose the direction of their actions with reason.

To be truly of Service, you need to be Authentic and Original. This means to be truly authentic in all you say and do, so it must come from the Heart. Being original, acknowledges that there is only one you, so make what you say and do represent you, not a copy, or what you think someone wants you to be. This means you are in a state of acceptance of you, so judgment disappears – it is a release of the ego, which frees you up to be who you truly are. Service is a generosity of Self, or the act of giving freely because you desire to, not with the idea of receiving a reward or gift in return. To be truthfully generous means you want prosperity, abundance and wealth to all. It’s both the joy of giving and the ability of receiving – they are different facets of the same blessing. Some find it easier to give than to receive – if so, they may want to question their feelings of self-worth. You are taking away the joy of another in refusing their gift. Generosity is motivated by love for all, as well as the individual. As it must come from the heart, true giving cannot be forced or fulfilling an obligation. Giving is wanting happiness for others, and to be happy for them receiving it. Celebrating another’s happiness is a gift of bliss for all involved.